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I'm Still Your Grandma I'm Still Your Grandpa
A resource for Boomer Grandparents
This book idea was published in October, 2016.

Offering Grandparents hints on how to support 
their grandchildren when families reorganize, topics 
  • The impact of family conflict on children
  • The role of grandparents in stepfamilies
  • Relationships with your grandchild(ren)'s Other Parent
  • Estrangement
  • Money Management
This information is just as valuable for separating parents.​

A bonus chapter on Emotional Intelligence is included.​

See the box below from an excerpt from I'm Still Your Grandma; I'm Still your Grandpa.

To participate in an anonymous survey on these topics, click on the link.  

Interested in learning more?
Excerpt from Chapter VI, What About The Money?

Money: I had a very wise mentor who taught Guidance Counseling classes when I was enrolled in graduate school. I remember she asked our class: Should parents treat their children equally? The ensuing discussion resulted in understanding the importance of accommodating our children’s individual differences as needs arise.

This approach is very necessary when it comes to sharing money with adult children and grandchildren. Responding to the circumstantial financial needs of your family members, while remembering their earning capacity (short- or long-term), can require Solomon-like wisdom.  

Because divorce or separation can trigger emotionally charged money crises, the atmosphere when discussing the topic can also be emotionally charged. Money conversations in families are difficult to have, and we all know families who have unraveled over the subject. Having a well-though-out approach to what you can offer when your family legitimately needs the help will prepare you to make objective decisions when the time comes.  

Before offering money, determine if the adult child is making sacrifices while adjusting to the new life circumstances.

How responsible is your adult child when it comes to money? What is his/her financial track record?

Will your financial contribution require you to forgo something for which you have been saving the money? (A new roof? A cruise? Optional surgery?)

If the separating adult child requires a loan until the divorce is finalized, how will you memorialize the terms of the loan? What is the length and interest rate of the loan? What are consequences for missed payments?

If you make a financial gift to your adult child, how do you specify it is a gift? Further, is it necessary to explain the gift to the recipient’s adult siblings?

How generous are you to the grandchildren when they are caught in family reorganization? How will your generosity be perceived by other grandchildren?

Are there strings attached to your financial support?

As an alternative to a monetary contribution, are you able to temporarily take on paying for some of the family’s expenses until the separation details are finalized? How would you memorialize this arrangement? 

Do you have the monthly income to cover the expense or do you have to take money out of your retirement savings when offering financial assistance?

If asked, should you cosign for a home mortgage, home refinance or car loan for your adult child?  

And finally, if giving your adult child money jeopardizes your own financial well-being, it is okay to say ‘no’ if you cannot be a cash machine.
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The process of writing this book has led me to the topic of Family Estrangement.   This is an increasing societal difficulty somewhat unique to middle- and upper-middle class Boomer grandparents and their adult children. 

I have added a chapter on the topic to my book. Any interested grandparent experiencing this problem and wishing to complete a short, 10 question survey on the topic, can click here.